In the Name of Allah, the Most Beneficent, the Most Merciful.
Assalamu’alaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh,
To my future wife, who would conceive my children and educate them with tawheed and akhlaq as exemplified by Rasulullah SAW and his successors who remain upright upon the path of tawheed and jihad. I am writing you this letter so that you will not get disappointed and sad someday in finding a partner like me who is full of shortcomings.
My future wife, I am writing you this letter so that you understand better the road we are going to travel and where we are heading as Allah's creatures who are burdened by the Almighty in this temporal world. So that we will be better prepared to mutually understand, to mutually empathize and to be grateful for what have been outlined by Allah SWT for our family.
My future wife and the future mother of my children, you probably already know what road I travel and what kind of life I want. I hope you will be a companion who is pleasant in this world in order for me to remain istiqamah in the path of the Rasul and his followers. Always making the call oftawheed as the most important thing in life and always teaching people the importance of returning to the main source of our Dien, Islam.
Perhaps later, there will be many trials, hardships and sufferings encountered in wading through our marriage, as human beings we may sigh, cry and could even be cursing the fates. But rest assured, it is all a trial to make us plenary humans and to educate us to remain firm in all weather and conditions.
Allah says: “And We will surely test you with something of fear and hunger and a loss of wealth and lives and fruits, but give good tidings to the patient,” (QS Al-Baqarah :155).
My future wife, if one day I still cannot make you every bit happy like any other wives, forgive me. But as a husband, I will always try my best to be the best, providing sustenance which are halal,though not much and fulfilling your rights. So help me realize that even if it is only with your smile.
My future wife, if one day I go far away and will not return for long, look after my properties, spend some of the properties that you have in Allah's cause and fulfill the rights of your brothers and sisters in iman if you are able to fulfill it. And take care of my honor as your husband, unify with the Muslimahs whose hearts are tethered to paradise, who guard their gaze when alone and when with others, so that I can feel at peace for leaving a woman and a mother who look after what are left by her husband.
My future wife, you know I'm not a perfect person in every way. So help me improve it with your advices, your criticisms and anything that can make the obedience to Allah and His Rasul increases everyday. Make our family a family that is ready to accept the inputs from anyone even if it is a small child. Because the truth is not recognized from who is speaking but from what is said.
And lastly, my future wife, make our children one day be like the lion, who are not afraid to defend the truth, not surrendering to circumstances and are always tough in the midst of an offensive storm. Teach them to be an angry man when the truth is humiliated, teach them to fight against any oppression on anyone and educate them to dare to sacrifice anything, even their lives for the honor of Allah, His Rasul and the believers.
Maybe I am expecting too much from you, too demanding on you and asking what might be too heavy for you. But believe me, I as a husband will try to be a good companion, a loyal listener to your inputs and advices, to help each other to continue to be obedient to Allah and His Rasul.
I write this letter with all my weaknesses, all my faults, so that you understand with whom you will navigate this life. So that you will know that a marriage is not always honey and milk. Also so that you will not be a barrier in fulfilling my mission of da'wah, and become the first enemy in weakening my spirit for jihad in the cause of Allah SWT.
Before we meet as a husband and wife, let us always pray the do'a that had been read by the warrior which shook the thrones of tyranny, As-Shaheed Sayyid Quthub:
O Muhaymin (The Guardian), if I fall in love, guard my love so that it does not exceed my love on You.
O Allah, if I fall in love, let me touch the heart of someone whose heart is attached to You, so that I do not fall into the abyss of a monotonous love.
O Rabbi, if I fall in love, guard my heart on her so that it does not turn away from Your Heart.
O Rabbal Izzat, If I yearn, make me yearn for someone who yearns for shaheed in Your path.
O Allah, If I yearn, guard my yearning on her so that I do not forget to yearn for Your Paradise.
O Allah, if I take pleasure from the love of Your lover, let that pleasure not exceed the pleasure of a munajat in the last third part of Your night.
O Allah, if I fall in love with Your lover, do not let me falter and fall in the long journey of calling mankind towards You.
O Allah, If You allow me to long for Your lover, do not let me go beyond the limits which makes me forget that true love and eternal longing are only with You.
O Allah, You are the All-Knowing that these hearts have come together in the love for You, these hearts have met in the obedience towards You, these hearts have unified in the da'wah towards You, these hearts have united in defending Your Shari'ah. Make the bond steadfast, O Allah. Make the love everlasting. Show us the ways. Fill these hearts with Your Nur (Light) which never ever fade. Comfort our breasts with the blessings of iman in You and the beauty of tawakkal in Your Path.
May Allah hear my do'a and your do'a and unite us in the shade of His Rahmah (Mercy, Grace) and make us a force that is loyal to Him.
Your future husband,
Original article by Hanif Abdullah
Submitted by a Mujahid